How long have I got?

We all know that employers are said to decide whether to give you the job in the first few seconds of an interview. What about relationships, does the same thing apply?

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Not quite, is the answer. According to a new study, we have up to 12 minutes in which to impress our potential partner.

The most important factors are whether we are smiling, making eye contact (don’t stare) and a tone of voice that the other person finds pleasing. The biggest turn offs are bad breath or excessive body odour, bad language, scruffy clothes and the lack of a smile.

So, rather than spend a long date discovering that you really aren’t right for each other, why not go for speed dating. The premise is that you will meet several other potential partners in the same evening. You have four minutes to chat before moving on to the next person. Can two minutes each be enough to make a decision of a lifetime? No, of course not, but it is long enough to rule out those people that you really don’t feel attracted to and set up some potential dates with time to get to know them better.

Enjoy your date.


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In January 2015, you’ll have a chance to try out your dating skills in Salisbury, Wiltshire.

What’s more, it’s all in aid of an excellent charity, Hope and Homes for Children.  The local support group is holding a speed dating event in Salisbury on January 15th 2015 for 40(ish) to 60(ish) year olds in aid of the charity.

By being flexible about the age range, there will be less temptation for participants to lie about their age.  In fact, you won’t have to tell anyone your age at all , if you feel right coming along then you’ll be welcome.

The evening will be a fun event where each person will spend 4 minutes talking with every person of the opposite sex. There will also be a chance to mingle at the bar before and after the formal sessions. Ideal for those wishing to meet potential partners or just make new friends whilst at the same time helping a marvellous charity.

Places are limted to 20 men and 20 women. To express an interest in attending a repeat of this event, email Chris at or call 01747 858016 – there is no commitment at this stage.

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